COACH, AUTHOR, SPEAKER
Relationship Coaching
I support individuals and couples in building healthier relationships with themselves and each other, from navigating personal challenges to separating with love, clarity, and compassion.
COACH, AUTHOR, SPEAKER
Relational Intelligence
I support people in building healthy relationships with themselves, others, and life itself.
TRUSTED BY LEADING ORGANIZATIONS WORLDWIDE
Potential Topics
recurring challenging relationship dynamics
stress and inner restlessness
deepening the connection with their partner
self-worth and self-trust
feeling more free and authentic
conscious uncoupling processes
inner barriers they regularly meet within themselves
building more vibrant and nourishing relationships
You do not need to have it all figured out before we begin. Our work can start exactly where you are.
My Services
Whether you are looking for 1:1 support or spaces for couples.
Individual Coaching
Explore your authentic expression, patterns that get in its way, and the way you relate to yourself and others.
Sessions for Couples
Deepen connection, develop clear and compassionate communication, and understand the dynamics that keep repeating between you.
Conscious Uncoupling
Navigate separation with clarity, care, and compassion, while honoring the beauty of your relationship.
Possible Outcomes
Clients often share that after our sessions they feel
more alive
more relaxed in being themselves
more deeply connected with their partners
a sense of relief
greater inner spaciousness and freedom
During our work together, I hold two intentions at the same time: the understanding that nothing needs to change, and the clarity that your initial longing can give us direction.
My Principles
Non-judgmental curiosity
We get to know each other, explore what you are longing for, and sense our resonance for working together.
Focused on the essence
I enjoy moving gently and directly toward the core of underlying dynamics. When you feel ready, we can go there together, always at your pace.
Clarity and spaciousness
It is important to me to create enough spaciousness for things to unfold naturally, while also staying connected to your original intention and what matters most to you.
Conscious Uncoupling
Separating in Love
A separation can be one of the most tender and challenging transitions in a relationship. It may bring grief, fear, guilt, anger, confusion, or deep uncertainty.
And still, separation does not have to become cold, destructive, or disconnected.
Conscious uncoupling is a way of meeting this transition with honesty, care, and compassion, honoring what your relationship has meant, while creating space for what is true now.
In our work together, I support you in slowing down, listening deeply, and navigating the emotional and relational layers of separation with more clarity and respect.
This work can support you if you are:
unsure whether to stay or separate
already in a separation process
wanting to end a relationship with love
struggling with guilt, attachment, grief, anger, or fear
trying to communicate clearly without harm
wanting to honor the relationship while also letting go
looking for a conscious way to transition into a new form of connection
How We Begin
01
Free 20min
Clarity Call
We get to know each other, explore what you are longing for, and sense our resonance for working together.
02
Choose a Package
If we both feel it is a good fit, you can choose between a package of 3 or 6 sessions.
03
First Zoom Call
Each session is 60 minutes and creates a focused space for exploration, clarity, and integration.
What Clients Say
John is an exceptional coach and consultant with an incredible ability to understand and clarify complex systems and relationships. He draws from a rich toolkit of conceptual frameworks and facilitation methods, making his sessions highly impactful. Above all, he is a deep listener and a skilled practitioner of non-violent communication. His unique combination of deep empathy and a strategic mindset is truly remarkable. I highly recommend John as both a trainer and consultant for anyone looking to improve leadership, company culture, or organizational dynamics. Working with John is a transformative experience!
John Lack’s conflict transformation coaching is truly insightful and empowering. His deep empathy and broad skill set in leadership and communication create a supportive space for growth and self-discovery. His approach helped me deepen my self-awareness, enhance communication, and navigate challenges with confidence. I highly recommend it to anyone seeking more authenticity, ease, and impact in their professional lives!
Conflict is likely one of the most uncomfortable topics in our lives. None of us like it, many of us avoid it. Through John, I learned how to transform these conflicts into opportunities for learning, growth and better decision-making. This shift has completely transformed the way I lead. Now I feel ready to step into them with ease, knowing I have the tools to navigate them with integrity and impact.
Working with John as a co-trainer at my academy, I experienced his deep understanding of Nonviolent Communication as a real asset to our groups. His calm and clear presence supported participants in navigating and transforming conflict. I warmly recommend him to anyone looking to grow through the challenges of human interaction.
Why I do this Work
How we relate matters. The ways we consciously and subconsciously relate to ourselves and each other shape our wellbeing, the quality of our relationships, and our experience of life.
Through many years of personal development work and training, I have experienced how much beauty, aliveness, and freedom can become available when we begin to explore the way we relate. This is why I feel deeply passionate about supporting others in this exploration.
I wrote The Art of Relating as the distilled essence of my personal development journey, with the intention of making fundamental relational skills more accessible. My latest book, TITLE, applies these approaches to the context of conscious uncoupling. When ending my ten-year relationship with my partner, I experienced how much love and compassion can be part of this journey. This inspired me to make this path available to others as well.
Before that, I published a series of children’s books on emotional intelligence, including Lara and the Wishbeings, to help make these skills accessible to the next generation.
My Books
The Art of Relating
The Art of Relating offers an embodied path to building healthy relationships with yourself, others and life.
How we relate to ourselves, to others and to life shapes our experience of being alive. When these relationships are healthy, it is easier to feel connected and loved. When they are not, life can feel heavy, tense or disconnected.
Through simple practices and essential insights from psychology, embodiment, trauma healing and spirituality, this book supports you in experiencing more compassion, aliveness and joy in everyday life.
Conscious Uncoupling
How we end a relationship matters. Conscious uncoupling offers a way to move through separation with love, integrity, and compassion.
TITLE offers an approach that moves beyond a breakup with hurt.
My Background
NARM therapy training with Tobias Konermann, 2026–2027
Shadow Work Facilitation, New Eden, 2024
Trauma-Informed Group Facilitation, The Field, 2023
Voice Work and Embodiment, 2022
Systemic Coaching, Institute for Mindfulness and Coaching, 2020
Nonviolent Communication trainings, 2018–2021
The Essence Framework
Authentic leadership, to me, is a state and skillset, where mind, heart and body align so that you can lead yourself and others through uncertainty with the highest degree of authenticity, integrity and confidence.
The Essence framework can support you in fully embodying your authentic leadership. These pillars uniquely combine aspects of nonviolent communication, nervous system regulation, trauma-informed facilitation, systemic coaching, embodiment, mindfulness and shadow work.
When all three pillars come together, we call this an authentic leader.
Authentic Communication
Authentic leaders are able to communicate vulnerably and with confidence. They have the capacity to clearly name their emotions & needs and differentiate between moments to share their inner truth and moments to give empathy to others.
This fosters psychological safety and inspires others to bring their whole self, which can
Self-
Awareness
Authentic leaders are aware of their own triggers, patterns, trauma, projections and personal conditioning. Therefore, they are able to take responsibility of their inner world & can swiftly move out of relational dynamics and stay connected to your vision.
This contributes to healthier relationships, trust, growth and improves decision making
Emotional
Mastery
Authentic leaders are capable of dealing with complex emotional situations and can remain connected to their inner balance, while navigating uncertainty. Being able to bring yourself back into center will be a life saving skill to create the impact you deserve.
This contributes to trust in their organizations and teams.
Become an Authentic Leader to Have the Impact You Deserve!
FAQs
What is your approach?
My approach is inspired by a wide spectrum of modalities, such as:
NARM therapy, embodiment, systemic coaching, mindfulness, nonviolent communication, creative expression, trauma-informed facilitation, voice work and movement.
Who are your sessions for?
Individuals and couples that want to build healthy relationships with themselves and each other.
What is conscious uncoupling?
Conscious uncoupling is a way of ending a relationship with love and compassion. It is rooted in the understanding that a relationship does not necessarily disappear, but changes its form. From this perspective, it becomes possible to close the chapter of a romantic relationship with care and transition into a new form of connection.
How much do the sessions cost?
I work with a sliding scale. That means depending on your income you can choose which contribution feels good for you.
Sessions for individuals
- 1 session: From X€ to Y€. (from less than X€ monthly salary to Y€)
- 3 session pack: From X€ to Y€. (from less than X€ monthly salary to Y€)
- 5 session pack: From X€ to Y€. (from less than X€ monthly salary to Y€)
Sessions for couples
- 1 session: From X€ to Y€. (from less than X€ monthly salary to Y€)
- 3 session pack: From X€ to Y€. (from less than X€ monthly salary to Y€)
- 5 session pack: From X€ to Y€. (from less than X€ monthly salary to Y€)
What is the format of your sessions?
Sessions for individuals are 60min and for couples 90min.
We work online through Zoom.
What does the booking process look like?
You can book a free clarity call on my website and choose your preferred time-slot in my calendar.
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