NARM® based and trauma-informed
Relationship Coaching
I support individuals and couples in building healthier relationships with themselves and each other, from navigating personal challenges to separating with love, clarity, and compassion.
NARM® based and trauma-informed
Relationship Coaching
I support individuals and couples in building healthier relationships with themselves and each other, from navigating personal challenges to separating with love, clarity, and compassion.
COLLABORATION PARTNERS
Potential Topics
recurring challenging relationship dynamics
stress and inner restlessness
internal conflicts
deepening the connection with your partner
self-worth and self-trust
feeling more free and authentic
conscious uncoupling processes
inner barriers you regularly meet within yourself
building more vibrant and nourishing relationships
You do not need to know where to start. We can explore this together.
My Services
NARM® based and trauma-informed sessions
Individual Coaching
Explore what might be getting in the way of feeling free to express yourself authentically or the way you relate to yourself and others.
Sessions for Couples
Deepen connection, develop clear and compassionate communication, and understand the dynamics that keep repeating between you.
Conscious Uncoupling
Navigate separation with clarity, care, and compassion, while honoring the beauty of your relationship.
Possible Outcomes
Clients often share that after our sessions they feel
more alive
more relaxed in being themselves
more deeply connected with their partners
a sense of relief
greater inner spaciousness and freedom
During our work together, I hold two intentions at the same time: the understanding that nothing needs to change, and the clarity that your intention for our sessions gives us direction.
My Principles
Non-judgmental curiosity
We get to know each other, explore what you are longing for, and sense our resonance for working together.
Focused on the essence
I enjoy moving gently and directly toward the core of underlying dynamics. When you feel ready, we can go there together, always at your pace.
Clarity and spaciousness
It is important to me to create enough spaciousness for things to unfold naturally, while also staying connected to your original intention and what matters most to you.
Conscious Uncoupling
Separating with Love
A separation can be one of the most tender and challenging transitions in a relationship. It may bring grief, fear, guilt, anger, confusion, or deep uncertainty.
And still, separation does not have to become cold, destructive, or disconnected.
Conscious uncoupling is a way of meeting this transition with honesty, care, and compassion, honoring what your relationship has meant, while creating space for what is true now.
In our work together, I support you in listening deeply, and navigating the emotional and relational layers of separation with clarity and compassion.
This work can support you if you are
unsure whether to stay or separate
already in a separation process
wanting to end a relationship with love
struggling with guilt, attachment, grief, anger, or fear
trying to communicate clearly without harm
wanting to honor the relationship while also letting go
looking for a conscious way to transition into a new form of connection
How We Begin
01
Free Clarity Call
We get to know each other, explore what you are longing for, and sense our resonance for working together. 20min call.
02
Choose a Package
If we both feel it is a good fit, you can choose between a package of 3 or 6 sessions.
03
First Zoom Call
Each 1:1 session is 60 minutes (couple sessions are 90 minutes) and creates a focused space for exploration, clarity, and integration.
What Clients Say
John is an exceptional coach and consultant with an incredible ability to understand and clarify complex systems and relationships. He draws from a rich toolkit of conceptual frameworks and facilitation methods, making his sessions highly impactful. Above all, he is a deep listener and a skilled practitioner of non-violent communication. His unique combination of deep empathy and a strategic mindset is truly remarkable. I highly recommend John as both a trainer and consultant for anyone looking to improve leadership, company culture, or organizational dynamics. Working with John is a transformative experience!
John Lack’s conflict transformation coaching is truly insightful and empowering. His deep empathy and broad skill set in leadership and communication create a supportive space for growth and self-discovery. His approach helped me deepen my self-awareness, enhance communication, and navigate challenges with confidence. I highly recommend it to anyone seeking more authenticity, ease, and impact in their professional lives!
Conflict is likely one of the most uncomfortable topics in our lives. None of us like it, many of us avoid it. Through John, I learned how to transform these conflicts into opportunities for learning, growth and better decision-making. This shift has completely transformed the way I lead. Now I feel ready to step into them with ease, knowing I have the tools to navigate them with integrity and impact.
Working with John as a co-trainer at my academy, I experienced his deep understanding of Nonviolent Communication as a real asset to our groups. His calm and clear presence supported participants in navigating and transforming conflict. I warmly recommend him to anyone looking to grow through the challenges of human interaction.
Why I do this Work
How we relate matters. The ways we consciously and subconsciously relate to ourselves and each other shape our wellbeing, the quality of our relationships, and our experience of life.
Through many years of personal development work and training, I have experienced how much beauty, aliveness, and freedom can become available when we begin to explore the way we relate. This is why I feel deeply passionate about supporting others in this exploration.
I wrote The Art of Relating as the distilled essence of my personal development journey, with the intention of making fundamental relational skills more accessible. My latest book, Separating with Love, applies these approaches to the context of conscious uncoupling. When ending my ten-year relationship with my partner, I experienced how much love and compassion can be part of this journey. This inspired me to make this path available to others as well.
Before that, I published a series of children’s books on emotional intelligence, including Lara and the Wishbeings, to help make these skills accessible to the next generation.
My Book
The Art of Relating
The Art of Relating offers an embodied path to building healthy relationships with yourself, others and life.
How we relate to ourselves, to others and to life shapes our experience of being alive. When these relationships are healthy, it is easier to feel connected and loved. When they are not, life can feel heavy, tense or disconnected.
Through simple practices and essential insights from psychology, embodiment, trauma healing and spirituality, this book supports you in experiencing more compassion, aliveness and joy in everyday life.
Conscious Uncoupling
Separating with Love offers a path to ending a relationship with love and compassion. It is an alternative to breakups, where people get cut out of each other’s lives, emotional tension keeps lingering and resentment prevails.
How we end relationships matters. With a conscious approach, endings can open a door to compassion and connection and even transform into healing experiences that support growth.
Separating with Love provides inspiration to help you find your own authentic way of moving through separation while continuing to meet yourself and each other with love and compassion..
FAQs
What is your approach?
My approach is inspired by a wide spectrum of modalities, such as:
NARM therapy, embodiment, systemic coaching, mindfulness, nonviolent communication, creative expression, trauma-informed facilitation, voice work and movement.
What is NARM?
NARM™ (NeuroAffective Relational Model) is a neuroscience-informed approach for working with developmental trauma and deeply rooted relational patterns. Developed by Dr Laurence Heller, NARM integrates body-oriented psychotherapy, attachment research and contemporary trauma research. Rather than focusing on processing the past, it explores how old patterns may be limiting someone in the present moment and who can emerge when they no longer do.
Note: The support I offer is not psychotherapy as defined by the German Psychotherapists Act and is not a substitute for psychotherapy. If you are experiencing a mental health condition that requires treatment, seeking medical or psychotherapeutic support should be the first step.
What is the difference from traditional talk therapy?
NARM™ differs from traditional talk therapy primarily through its holistic approach. It works not only with what someone thinks or talks about, but also with what is happening in the body, such as tension, breathing and posture. Rather than focusing mainly on the past, it explores what is showing up in the present moment. NARM does not centre on what is wrong or lacking, but on the coherent self that may emerge beneath protective patterns.
Who are your sessions for?
Relationship coaching is for individuals and couples who want to create healthier relationships with themselves or each other. It may be suitable if you want to understand recurring relational patterns, communicate more clearly, become more aware of your needs and boundaries, or navigate a transition or separation.
What topics can I bring to your coaching?
Anything that's currently alive for you. Common themes include: recurring patterns in relationships, stress and inner restlessness, internal conflicts, deepening the connection with your partner, self-worth and self-trust, feeling more free and authentic, conscious uncoupling, inner barriers you keep running into, and building relationships that feel more vibrant and nourishing.
What is conscious uncoupling?
Conscious uncoupling is a way of ending a relationship with love and compassion. It is rooted in the understanding that a relationship does not necessarily disappear, but changes its form. From this perspective, it becomes possible to close the chapter of a romantic relationship with care and transition into a new form of connection.
How much do the sessions cost?
I work with a sliding scale. It is important to me that my support is accessible to as many people as possible. The table below offers some guidance. If you are unsure which rate applies to you, feel free to speak to me directly.
The scale is based on a monthly gross income ranging from less than €2,000 to more than €4,000.
Individual sessions (60 min)
- One session: €110–€160 per session
- 3-session package: €90–€140 per session
- 6-session package: €80–€130 per session
Couples sessions (90 min)
- One session: €170–€220 per session
- 3-session package: €150–€200 per session
- 6-session package: €140–€190 per session
The Clarity Call, our 20-minute introductory conversation, is free of charge.
What happens in a session?
We begin wherever you are in that moment, whether with a current concern, a feeling or a particular situation. From there, we explore together what may lie beneath it: which patterns emerge, what your body is communicating, and where connection feels easy or more difficult. There is no fixed programme and no homework. You set the pace.
How long is a session?
Individual sessions last 60 minutes. Couples sessions last 90 minutes, allowing enough space for both perspectives and the relational dynamic between you.
Are the sessions online or in person?
All sessions are online via Zoom
What does the booking process look like?
You can book a free clarity call on my website and choose your preferred time-slot in my calendar.
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